Sunday

10.22.2006...Diwali: The Day After

Ahh the joys of Diwali...the sweets, the lights, the gifts and the crackers.

Diwali Eve (is that official?)

We took one more trek into Ahmedabad. I still wanted to satiate my desire to see the surging sights of the festival preparations.

The main aim of this particular trip was to walk the stretch of Law Garden, which can be a great shopping experience if one wishes it.

Many of the stalls in Law Garden are filled mirrored skirts, wall hangings (ma-dum?) and bed covers. They also have plenty of other salwar suits, kurti tops, purses and more. This particular evening we were to shop to no avail as the prices had been inflated so much for the holiday, they wouldn't even bargain with mummy.

From inside the safety of the car I enjoyed many of the other festive sights, such as this sweet stall which had been set up...

Why should I say safety you may ask? Well, the crackers were being let off in full force. A number of times I would notice a small fire by the roadside (not an unusual sight) which would then suddenly explode...BOOM! Scared me every time.

Not to alarm any one, but there was an enormous police presence on the main roads entering the city. When I asked Surnish's father about it, he said some of it was for traffic control, but it was more to keep "trouble" from happening.
By "trouble" he meant acts of terrorism. There is a lingering concern that at some point revenge acts of terror will happen in Gujarat as a result of the riots in 2002. Papa said that it was well known that those in charge politically did little to nothing to stop the indiscriminate killing of Muslims. Hindus were also killed in retaliatory violence at the time. To learn more please read the link above.

For the rest of the ride home I watched the bright flickering dots characteristic of the small clay diyas. They adorned every gate, fence, balcony and drive. As we made it to the stretches of tree lined roads near Gandhinagar, where I often notice small shanties or tents set up by the very poor, I could spot single diyas, sometimes in pairs, brightening the woeful abodes.
Even those with the least reason to hope still believe that they would bring bad fortune on themselves by NOT burning the diya.
Ah, the power of religious faith.

Diwali

The day began like every other one. I lay in bed contemplating how late I could sleep without making myself feel guilty. After I agreed with myself that 7:30am was about right, I got up and joined the folks for morning tea.

After collecting my new Diwali outfit (hey, that's part of the tradition and who am I to argue?), I prepared to create my first rangoli.

While terribly time consuming (being the perfectionist I am), it really is only several simple steps.

Rangoli Step 1: Smear Mud--The moisture from the mud will be absorbed by the mica in the colored sand and subsequently help the two to bond so the rangoli has lasting power.


Rangoli Step 2: Cheat and use an outline--Now I don't know that this is really cheating, but sure does help with making the design...by the way, like my new PINK suit?


Rangoli Step 3: Fill in with color
--This is the fun part, BUT extremely time consuming. I was out her for several hours. It was a nice experience though. I liked the concentration factor.


Rangoli Step 4: Enjoy--this was the final product of my efforts. Not too shabby for my first Rangoli ever.


After the Rangoli session I ate lunch and napped soundly for a couple of hours. These afternoon naps are another reason I should feel bad about sleeping in so much in the morning...but I don't. Just about everyone naps in the afternoon warmth. Inside houses, under carts, in the shade of roadside trees, everyone seems to rest for some time.

In the early evening I went with papa to the cracker stalls to pick up a few tame items.
My selection was mostly comprised of sparklers, some spinning swastiks and flaming pencils.


But before the fire action we had some more formal ceremonial matters to take care of. First came the pooja. We lit all the diyas and prepared a display of silver items and flowers to please Ganesh-ji and Lakshmi-ji. Then we said a little prayer for prosperity in the new year.



Next comes the placing of the diyas. The best ones were situated around my rangoli. This was sure to get the attention of Lakshmi!



And finally came the crackers.

Mummy and papa seemed to be enjoying themselves...


I tried some of the fiery pencils; you can image the laughter that surrounded me as I squealed about that little sparks coming too close. Apparently I'm quite the wimp...note to self no more than one at the time.


Ahhh, this was more like it. Simple pleasures bring simple joys. The very best kind.


The folks' dog, Jimmy, who is a real character, went insane with the crackers and had to be let inside to hide under the cabinets.


By days' end we were hot, sweaty, well-polluted and happy. Diwali, you gotta love it.


And Neeexxxttt.....We're Off!



Tomorrow morning (the 23rd) we leave for nearly two weeks of travel. First stop will be to Chennai and Pondicherry (now Puducherry). We will hopefully be able to join a three-day tour/seminar at Auroville as well.
Then on the 30th we fly to Kolkata for five days.

Not sure what my access to internet will be...may be non-picture postings for a while. No worries though, I'll have snaps ready when I get back.

Happy Diwali and much prosperity!

Peace,
A Pink American

Friday

10.20.2006...Diwali Season

Clay Diyas...the most common image of Diwali

Tomorrow (October 21) is the Hindu festival of Diwali or दीवाली. If you didn't catch the news, the NASDAQ has decorated the outside of its building in NY to recognize the festival. That's pretty big news, actually.

I wonder where Diwali will fit in with the other assimilated US holidays. Will it be like St. Patrick's day or Cinco de Mayo? Will it be commercialized the heck out of like Christmas or will the burgeoning Indian population in the US keep it on their own terms? I suppose time will tell.

Don't get me wrong, it is a big commercial event here, but I get the sense that it still has a far more substantially religious meaning for those who celebrate it than Christmas does for Americans. And when I say religious, that doesn't necessarily mean spiritual.

In the meanwhile, festival preparations are under way.

Ahmedabad buildings decorated with lights...



Colored sand to make Rangoli art pieces...


Phool wali...flower vendors with marigolds to decorate doorways, necks and temples.


Children with "crackers"...fireworks are a big part of Diwali and some can be down right scary. These children were using stones to pound snapping crackers...the explosions were surprisingly loud. They seemed quite satisfied with the knowledge that they were scandalizing nearby adults.


Another hallmark of Diwali is the gifting of sweets, dried fruits and nuts. The sweets are generally an assortment of barfi sweets. I personally had an avoidance to barfi after an incident with overexposure to it the evening before our wedding, but have come to enjoy it sense. Maybe too much.

My in-laws were so pleased to see me wide-eyed as I opened and sampled the gifts they'd received, that mummy wanted to take some snaps.

I must warn you...if you had any notion I was a lady or even attractive these pictures may dispel such beliefs...

Although this one captured the sentiment, I didn't think it was that great so I tried again...


This one I think I was trying too hard to make Surnish's folks laugh...needless to say it did the trick....




Buying a New Car...In India

Did you ever wonder why a new car in America may act up shortly after receiving it?

It's because you didn't bless it properly and welcome it into your family.

Upon delivery of mummy and papa's new car it was gifted a flower necklace and anointed with vermilion symbols of luck including the ever present Swastik ( I put that on).

Then I (a person they consider to be very auspicious) was the first to drive it for added luck.

What do you know about that!?!







And Finally...Meetu

He has been in the family almost as long as Surnish and is quite a character. Here he is just after a bath...I love his punk look and couldn't resist take a snap.


Thanks for checking in!

Peace,

A Pink American

Wednesday

10.18.2006...Thoughts that Go Deeper


In these last several days, since having returned from Mt. Abu, I've had a good deal of time to think about 'things'.

I want to preface these thoughts by saying that all the individuals I have met have been genuinely kind to me and this is in no way meant to characterize anyone other than that.

I am pink and I am in India. While on one hand this seems like a plus because I'm somewhat of an exotic oddity, I mostly feel very out of place.

This isn't to say that I feel uncomfortable, oh no, just misplaced. There are a couple of factors that lead to this feeling.

HISTORY (or lack thereof)

In the US few seem to think anything about not being able to trace ones family line back only one or two generations. Rarely does ones lineage (other than the omnipresence of ones general ethnic background) come up as a topic of conversation.
Here it matters. People say they are this or that, even if they themselves have never been to the place of their origins. It would be like a 3rd generation Italian-American saying I'm Italian before I'm American and also introduce themselves as such. That's not to say that some don't but in general people in the States don't go about in that manner.

I have little history. I know I'm some Irish, some English and even some Czech and/or German. Our line may go back to one of the signers of the Declaration of Independence, but when I read the genealogy put together by one of my great-Aunts, there was something amiss that made me believe that we didn't have that lineage.

It doesn't matter. I guess being free of historical claim means I am free to create my own history and adopt the customs I believe in or enjoy the most.


RELIGION and SPIRITUALITY


As some of you know I choose not to practice organized religion. I have practiced it in the past, but I prefer to develop a personal relationship with the creative powers that be rather than let some one else dictate this for me.

This is a struggle.

I feel as though coming to India is part of a spiritual quest. One that I've been set on for almost my entire life. But being that I'm pink, American, having little history and no religion would make it seem that I'm handicapped.

I don't feel this way about myself, but I get the distinct sense that others feel this way about me.

One guest who came to visit the other day was telling a story about the building of the Ashram in Puducherry (Pondicherry).

She said that because of the dream of a French woman, who then came to India, that the Ashram was built.

"If a French person can do this, then why not us Indians?"

This wasn't meant to be a derogatory comment, but at the same time how could it not be?

Why should it be any more surprising that a French person or Indian person or any person be granted a vision or achieve a spiritual awakening?

Are some peoples holier? Are some places holier? Only to those that assign the value tag.

Some would say women aren't worthy, others would say "no" to dark skinned folk, and others would say the poor cannot achieve such things.

Are we not all equal in the scheme of creation? We could all just as equally shun the material world and pursue our faiths. Alternatively, we could all just as easily turn our backs on our Gods and pursue the material route.

In the end it is the choice and will belonging to each human spirit that determines the path they pursue. And these choices can change at any time.

With that, I return to my path...because I am a woman because I am pink because I am American because I am without religion (but not without faith) all of these things mean nothing. The pursuit of spiritual awareness is no more inherently challenging for me than others simply because of the factors I have been born in to. I choose not to let them challenge me. Others may think, say or indicate any one or all of these factors as drawbacks, but I don't have to justify my existence to anyone on the day I pass from this world except myself and the higher powers that be.

And so I confidently move forward, having offered this testimony to my faith that I can achieve transcedence above the everyday. I can strike a balance between the secular world and the spiritual one. I can rise above judging myself in the eyes and words of others.

To be sure this is not an easy task and sometimes I am overwhelmed and even a bit frightened.

But I find no satisfaction in shrinking back into a worldly existence which simply offers little more than a sense of egoistic accomplishment with no real foundation in sincere service or faith, as I know it to be.

Peace,

A Pink American